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Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Is Your Incredible Factor in a Holding Pattern? Darnyelle A. Jervey - Speaker, Coach, Author

I flew to and from Atlanta this past weekend to deliever a new workshop, The Incredible Factor. I had a blast and the small but mighty group of women got just what they needed in those 4 hours to produce a mindset shift that would allow them to turn their passion into profit. Each of the ladies has reported a significant shift giving themselves permission to Own their Incredible Factor.

On the way to and from Atlanta, we were delayed because of the weather. Essentially, we were in a holding pattern. We were unable to modify the current events, we were foced to wait. While people around me were frantic for one reason or another, I sat peacefully...what quickly entered into my heart was that "delay is not denial." Afterall, I was coming back to my home in Delaware...just a little later than I had expected but I was okay with that....I believe that we should focus on what we can control, not what we can't. I remember one particular gentlemen. He was livid. Mad about the extra 45 minutes of "down" time, he scoured at the airline attendants at the gate. Sometimes, for reasons we cannot comprehend, we get delayed. Instead of embracing the delay because it is working in our favor, we become belligerent and produce a negative emotion that attracts more of the same in life and business. That, Incredible One, is what they call a holding pattern.

What I've realized in working with a few of my business coaching clients and traveling for speaking engagements recently is that many people have somehow gotten their Incredible Factor stuck in a holding pattern. Bottom line, they are stuck. They've been doing what they've been doing and settling for the results they've been receiving. They've not gotten clear on their value and their ideal client and as a result they are stuck, fearful, unsure, confused...holding for a change to come but completely unaware of how to usher in that change.

The universe can not restore your Incredible Factor and turn your passion into a profit until you get clear by releasing yourself from fear, guilt, confusion, inauthentic activity and lack of integrity.

What are you holding on to that is preventing you from getting what you want? Is it control because you fear that a cleaning lady can't clean your toilets as well as you? If you want to play big, learn how to pay someone else $5 to $100 so that you can do what must be done to Unleash Your Incredible Factor. I believe that we should focus our attention on IPA's - Income Producing Activity and the last time I checked having to sort the mail, clean the toilet, even organize your desk wasn't paying big.


When your Incredible Factor is in a holding pattern, it cannot produce the reward for those whom you serve. Take a delay that is not self-imposed as a blessing, sit peacefully and clarify your purpose and intent of what to do when the delay is over. And more importantly REST. Most of you work too much anyway, so a few minutes with no plans might actually lead to a mindset shift that can make the time you are working more productive...how would more productivity enhance your Incredible Factor?

If the delay is self-imposed, seek help immendiately. Find out what is causing the holding pattern. Regardless of its intent, a coach will be able to refocus your energy to lift the delay and get you back on your way to fulfilling your purpose and serving others with your gift.

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a certified life and business coach committed to imparting skills and strategies to define and unleash the Incredible in the lives of those who are sick and tired of playing small, after big results in life and business. For more information on How to Use Your Incredible Factor To Quantum Leap in Life & Business, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com for a FREE audio download of Darnyelle's high-content, high-value CD.

Copyright (c) 2010 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Is Your Incredible Factor Authentic? - Darnyelle A. Jervey - Coach, Speaker, Author

One thing I can't stand is fake people. We all know them, they are all over the place. They as I say are people who sing in the choir....everything is "me,me,me,me,me" Can't you see right through those people?

Oh, I hope that you are not one of them....sorry but it's time that you stop singing that solo and start to invite others to be a part of your experience by positioning your Incredible Factor authentically.

Your brand, your product or service, your gift is a reflection of the best or worst of you....and if you don't spend time Inspecting the Incredible...you may miss the mark on ensuring that your marketing and branding efforts attract more clients and lead to the quantum leap you wish to experience in your business.

As a coach, I have a recommendation that can help you. Get to a quiet place without the distractions of your world - no tv, radio, blackberry, Ipod, etc. Just you, your heart and a notepad. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself and clear your mind and pallet of all that was happening in and around you.

Repeat after me: I am offering an authentic gift to the marketplace which is loved, purchased and enjoyed frequently.

Then the work begins: ask yourself a few poignant questions and answer them from your heart space, fully centered on your Incredible Factor - the gift you offer the world.

1. What three words do you want your gift to invite the world to experience?

2. What three words would others (previous clients, etc) use to describe how your gift makes them feel?

3. Are those three words consistent with what your Incredible Factor means to the world?

4. How can you make modifications that tap into the core of you and reflect your gift in its purest, most authentic form for others?

Struggling to answer these questions and relate them back to your gift? No worries, I will be introducing a solution to you real soon. In the meantime, get a F.R.E.E. copy of my CD - how to Use Your Incredible Factor to Quantum Leap in Life and Business. It's changing lives, you should be next. Visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com for details and to register.

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Copyright (c) 2010 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Oprah, Naomi and the Incredible Factor - Darnyelle A. Jervey - Speaker, Coach, Author

Recently, I was watching Oprah and she had SuperModel Naomi Campbell on the show. Naomi talked of many things that have transpired in her life but what stood out the most to me was:
1. She had a desire to find an inner peace and beauty that matched her outer beauty. (Her Incredible Factor)

How many of us could say that this is also what plagues you? There was definitely a time in my life when I could - about 8 years ago to be exact. To the outside world, much like that of Naomi's , I had it going on but inside, where it counts, it was dark, desolate and scary. I was afraid of truly becoming that which I really desired to be.

So what changed?

I got to know the lover of my soul and in that process many things about myself were revealed. The most important of them, that I am Incredible and that there is something about me that makes others want to be, do and have more just because they heard me share from my heart - my Incredible Factor. That I am real, authentic and that I care about empowering others, that I am more than enough and that I was given everything I need to success in my life at birth...I did the work to know me, love me, appreciate me and become the me I was created to be. Ms. Incredible One.

You are greatness. You are powerful. You are beautiful. You are a gift to the world. You are More than Enough.

As I watched Naomi, what I really think she was saying is "I want to know my purpose." I found myself wanting to encourage her, to let her know that she is already who she desires to be. She must give herself permission to be herself. I wanted to tell her how beautiful her soul is and how she is not her past and that because she has made a non-negotiable decision to stop giving her past permission to speak, it will stop. I was so proud of her transparency and honesty that she wants more in her life - a deeper meaning, a purpose alignment, the Incredible Factor.

So what does all of this have to do with all of you?

Many women feel what Naomi discussed on the show - the time is now to live your dreams and identify your purpose but many have no idea how to make it happen. Many are in jobs they hate and want desperately to get it but they are allowing the economy to be their reason to stay. Many have a hidden passion, one that will enhance the lives of others but they are too afraid of what might happen if they REALLY do what they have been secretly praying for. Many lack the knowledge of how to achieve the next level in their life, career, business and need direction to make it happen.

I'd like to help. Your purpose is your reason why. I can name counteless successful people and less often than you might think do they say, "I want to make a boatload of cash." What they say instead is "I have a dream, I know my purpose and I want to add value to the lives of others using my business to fund and expand it."

When I am doing a coaching consult often the "thing" the potential client says is missing from their life is money. Let me be clear - it's not the money, its what the money can do to help you live your dream and purpose....Big Difference.

I'm so grateful to start each new day elated that my purpose, my gift, is bigger than me and all I have to do is surrender in obedience to the laws of the universe. Incredible....

I've got a treat for you. If you go right now to http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com you can get a F.R.E.E. CD download of How to Use YOUR Incredible Factor to Quantum Leap in Life and Business - it's high-value and high-content - filled with tips you can implement right now to began the journey of exploding your life!!!!

Through her workshops, courses, books and other products, Darnyelle A. Jervey is transforming the lives of others to define and unleash their Incredible Factor by imparting skills, strategies and solutions that lead to a quantum leap in life and business. For more information about Darnyelle, please visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com.

Copyright (c) 2010 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Good Morning...Heartache?! Darnyelle A. Jervey - Speaker, Coach, Author

Before you give me a "what you talkin' 'bout Willis" look, let me explain. No, I'm not fresh off of watching Mahogany or listening to Diana belt out the lyrics to the song that many sing morning after morning with a connotation different than the one from which I write today.

On this Walk it Out Wednesday, I have a question for you. When you think about your gift (what you alone were created to do for this world,) does your heart ache for those who need it?

I mean, really. Stop and think as I share something with you. Mine does. I am delighted to greet each new day in excitement and with splendor oozing out of my pores. I am always in awe of what God is up to in my life. I start the day in gratitude and then recite many affirmations as I move to visualizing what I am expecting from the abundant universe in which I live. But many wake to discontent and confusion over their life prupose. They get up to go to jobs they hate but can't quit for fear of how the bills will get paid. They dread the morning commute and take a long time getting out of the car hoping that maybe one of the kids will be sick and they will have a reason not to enter into the walls that bind them to an existence of mediocrity.

Oh, how my heart aches for you. I mean, I being honest. I know how you feel. I use to feel the same way when I felt trapped in Corporate America. But what I found is that by defining and unleashing my Incredible Factor (my secret sauce, my special God-given gift) I could breakdown, breakout and breakthrough to the life I was created to live!

Am I talking to you this Walk it Out Wednesday? I want nothing more than for you to realize that who you are was not created for lack, scarcity or doubt. You were created for more than enough. A passion for work that feels more like play. A passion for the meaningful.

And it is still possible for you.

I'm releasing details real soon for Incredible Factor 101, my new empowerment challenge to prepare you for the life of your dreams. If you want to be included, got to my website and register for our weekly Ezine, The Incredible Factor. Visit now, http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a professional speaker and certified life coach committed to imparting skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. Her desire is that you stop playing small and start living the Big life, with Big results. For more information, visit her website www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

Copyright (c) 2010 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Get to Steppin' - Darnyelle A. Jervey, Speaker, Coach, Author

"We spend way to much time talking about and no time walking toward what we want in life."

What would happen if you actually began to walk toward what you want to bring into your life?

How would your life be different if your dream was not a figment of your imagination but within a few strategic steps?

What one small yet Incredible step can you take that would allow you to keep walking toward your goal?

I'm looking for a few walkers...a few who will commit to walking with me toward what they want....No Matter What. I guarantee that life will happen but those who want to walk with me will commit to the non-negotiable decision to keep walking despite the obstacles that present themselves. Remember, the only difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone is how you use it. Will you take the Road Less Traveled with me? I love that Robert Frost poem. When you walk with me, it will make all the difference.

I know that 86% of you will allow your fear of failure to stop you dead in your tracks. I'm talking to the 14% of you who are ready to get what has been earmarked and reserved for you.

I'm lacing up my shoes now...are you?

1. Get clear on what you desire to bring into your life...complete a life description...
2. Write down your vision - 10 goals for your life on index cards to create flash cards that you will review each day.
3. Start each day in gratitude, powerful intenting and affirmation.
4. Determine the one, powerful, meaningful first step and create an action plan in preparation to take it.
5. WALK - There's a poem called Come to the Edge....when you come to the edge, I will push you and watch you grow your wings, land safely and walk into your destiny.

If you want to walk with me, complete a coaching consult request form on my website http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a professional speaker and coach committed to imparting skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in the lives and businesses in women.

Copyright (c) 2010 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

It Aint Easy Being Green - Darnyelle A. Jervey Speaker, Coach, Author

I know, I know you see the title and you think, "Come on, Darnyelle, Kermit the Frog, really?"

Well, not exactly. Although today is the day after St. Patrick's Day and I was extremely busy yesterday, I wanted to write my blog based on what hit my heart this week. As a coach, I am blessed to work with a lot of amazing women. I also meet new women every week by completing coaching consultations with them. An overwhelming theme this week was feeling different, alone, like no body cares. If you feel this way, let me give you hope: I understand how you feel. There was a significant amount of time in my teens and 20's that I felt the same exact way but what I found is that when I sought mentors and embraced my differences and realized that I was born Incredible, everything in my life began to change.

For me it started when I sought my purpose and decided to live with passion. That led to my attitude changing and my confidence increasing and easily, as if fitting me like a glove, I began to expect Incredible things to enter and affect my life.

And so it was. You see, by giving up the desire to be like others and embracing who Darnyelle is and was created to do for this world, I realized that my color was purple - the color of royalty, after all I'm a child of the King. I quickly left green behind and followed my heart to a place that has elevated me to a level that is indicative of Big thoughts, Big Dreams and Bigger results, which will lead to a different shage of green, the green with dead presidents embedded.

The same is available to you.

If you are feeling anything like I use to feel, you may find yourself green with envy when you see others doing what you desire to do, getting the breaks you have been praying for and as a result, you get angry and become even more introverted. It's not easy being green - whether green is envious or different; however, when you embrace who you are and what gifts, talents and abilities you were born with, it makes it easier to love the you looking back at you in the mirror.

I use to spend my time mimicking those who had it going on. It wasn't easy. I mean seriously it was hard to try to get my hair the same exact way or to find the same exact outfit that they wore so effortlessly....I got very tired, real quick. I came to this not so startling revelation with the help of some powerful mentors and coaches (before I even really knew what coaching was) You were born an orginal, but being green will make you a copy...

what would change in your life if you focused as much attention on your dreams and desires as you focus on those of others?

We often only see or think of what glitters but my grandmother use to say, "everything that glitters ain't gold."

I invite you to embrace who you are. Get to know yourself. Get to a quiet place and reflect on what you've been given that makes you an original. It may not be easy being green, but it will be a lot easier being you.

If you are ready to stop being green and ready to play Big, Bold and get what's been earmarked and reserved for you, there's some FREE goodies waiting for you at http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com.
Copyright (c) 2010 Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker and life and business coach committed to imparting skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. For more information, visit her website, www.incredibleoneenterprises.com.