Where do you live?

About 5 years ago, I had a "come to Jesus," you know what I mean. This occurs when we wake up and confront the issues and obstacles plaguing us from enjoying our lives. I was in a corporate job that I no longer had a desire to do. I was unhappy, overweight. I was in turmoil. But I did something unconsciously. If I had of thought about it, I wouldn't have done it because doing it would have removed the excuses that I had been using as to why I was where I was - sound familiar?

How many of you use excuses as an escape mechanism from facing the issues of your heart? It's just easier to pretend as if they don't exist...

I attended a life changing conference. I mean everything changed. It was cataclysmic, it was as if every single speaker was there for one reason - to facilitate my breakthrough. You see, I had been broken down. I was lonely, I hated my job, I felt like no one cared about me. Truthfully, it was all in my head. Just like it is in yours if you have had these feelings. As a dear friend says, when are you going to get out of your head and into your heart?!

I want you to know that a breakdown can and will become a breakthrough when you make a non-negotiable decision that enough is enough and decide to do something differently.

Non-negotiable.

For me, the first step was attending the conference. How many of you know that if you want to change your situation, you have to change your position. That's right MOVE. Do something different, something you've never done. While I was there, I was forced with looking at myself in the mirror - the proccess I now use with each client that I coach, which I have aptly called "Inspect the Incredible." Sadly, what looked back at me was not cute in the least but what's more, it wasn't authentic. So busy trying to be everything to everybody, I lost myself and I realized that I was not living an authentic life. I was not living from my heart.


Once you know better, you are expected to do better, so I immediately began to make clear and calculated changes to my life. Oddly enough the first step was realizing that I was born Darnyelle for a reason and on purpose. I had to stop trying to be like everyone else so that I could fit in. That revelation - Life Changing. And that revelation led to another and another and another and finally to the commitment to help other women get to the same place where I now reside - Peace, Joy and True, Authentic happiness right now. Not later when my change, or the man or the money comes but NOW.

As a result of that conference I began to seek assistance in changing my life. I found a life coach. I made a commitment to becoming the best me. 5 years later, I am living from my heart and teaching others to do the same. It was a challenging process and yet it has been worth it. And no, it didn't take me 5 years to do it! The bible says 'Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." I operate fully from a space of love, personal power and conviction to greet each day ready to make a difference in the lives of others.

Now that I've told you my business (smile), I have a question for you: Where do you live? Are you suffering or struggling with lack, low self-esteem, worry, turmoil, strife or worse? When was the last time you smelled the aroma of your heart - your attitude? If you've smelled it, and a pleasant fragrance hasn't greeted your nostrils, are you yet ready to make a change?

If nothing changes, nothing changes. But your address will change when you commit to yourself, do the work necessary to get a new address and live from your heart.

In my own words....

I am a professional speaker, certified life coach, award-winning author and consultant. I work exclusively with women who struggle with identifying their PACE - Purposeful Passion, Attitude of Abundance, Consistent Confidence and Enthusiastic Expectation. My clients desire to experience significant personal & professional growth by eliminating excuses, facilitating change and overcoming adversity in their life and business. I am more than motivation, I impart skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. For more information, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

Copyright (c) 2010 Darnyelle A. Jervey All Rights Reserved.

If Nothing Changes....

It's a New Year. Many of you have created massive lists of thought out ideas and plans on how 2010 will be your best year ever, yet you have not equipped yourself to achieve your goals because nothing has changed. Overall, your mindset is the same....Oliver Wendell Holmes said it best: "Once a mind has been expanded it should not return to the same place." Yet, if you have not done the work necessary to shift your mindset, nothing will change in the new year.

I did some research and I learned that approximately 45% of people set New Year's Resolutions and of those people, after 6 months approximately 12% are still holding fast and walking into their resolution. I asked myself why and I answered (scary I know - smile) "It's because people do things for show and fad but they do not prepare themselves for the reality of what they want to accomplish in their lives. It sounds cute, it sounds impressive or even having the best laid intentions without a mindset shift or adjustment is just words on a sheet of paper."

It is my desire that something changes in you. I want more than anything in this world for you to realize the Incredible within you. It is my desire that you resolve to be Incredible and I have a few tips that can help you to make a change so that everything changes.

DARNYELLE’S TIPS:
1. BE HONEST, REALISTIC AND AUTHENTIC
2. ENROLL GOD IN YOUR GOAL
3. MAKE A NON NEGOTIABLE DECISION AND COMMIT TO THE GOAL
4. DISCOVER THE REASON FOR THE NEEDED CHANGE – WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND WHY….IT’S EASIER TO KEEP
5. BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE
6. DEVELOP A SENSE OF URGENCY
7. SEEK ASSISTANCE FROM A COACH
8. START A MASTERMIND GROUP, GET ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS
9. ESTABLISH A PLAN – WHAT GETS ATTENDED TO GETS DONE
10. FOCUS ON THE FOLLOW THROUGH

Remember if nothing changes, nothing changes….ask yourself
1. why are you making this resolution
2. what will I change to see this resolution come full circle
3. who will I enlist to help me remain accountable to my resolution
4. if there are no consequences for making this change, why make it?
5. what is my inspiration for this resolution now?

Have you had your FREE coaching consultation yet? Go, right now, to http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com and submit your coaching consultation request. In 30 minutes, Darnyelle will show you how as your coach, you can CHANGE your life.

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a professional speaker, certified coach, author and consultant committed to your personal and professional growth and development. Her company, Incredible One Enterprises is a full service empowerment firm focused on defining and unleashing the Incredible in you.

Copyright (c) 2010 Darnyelle A. Jervey All Rights Reserved.

The Seed of Ungratefulness

Today, I don't have a special quote for you....today I want you to be honest with yourself and in authenticity, I want you to simply ask yourself one question: "Is there anything that I am ungrateful for that may be the root of my current situation?"

What I know for sure is that you cannot conquer what you refuse to confront and if you want to live from a space of gratitude 365, 24/7, you must identify, acknowledge, own and change your disposition by changing the seed.

I know this is an interesting spin on the eve of Thanksgiving but I sometimes feel that Thanksgiving is a very cliche holiday. I mean people are bound everyday of their lives because they are not honest and open to change yet on one day, magically, they celebrate the things for which they are grateful....I believe that everyday that I open my eyes is Thanksgiving; I do not wait until the 4th Thursday of November to express my gratitude to God, friends, customer, clients, etc. I share as it happens, live and in full effect. If you have been following me, you also know that I spend a minimum of 5 minutes before my feet hit the floor each morning in gratitude....grateful for everything...big, little, small, seemingly insignificant...grateful for it all.

While conducting a group coaching session recently, I posed the question above to my clients and I was impressed and grateful for their authenticity. They honestly shared what in their lives they are not grateful for....my follow up question was, what are you going to do to change that? I ask the same follow up question to you...

As always, I have a few points that can change the Seed of ungratefulness in Your life to a fruit ripe for the harvest....

1. See the ungrateful - Deliverance or the uprooting of bad seed starts first when you see it. My favorite book makes it clear that without vision, the people will perish. If you cannot see what you do not like about your existence, you cannot alter it in anyway. Life is far too short to be living in a space of ungratefulness but so many people wear blinders from the truth and just meander in mediocrity day after day...

2. Take Responsiblity for the ungrateful - again I say you can't conquer what you are unwilling to confront. And by confronting, I mean taking ownership of your mess...there will never be change if we act as if we are perfect and our lives don't stink....

3. Make a decision to change the ungrateful - make a non-negotiable decision that whatever it is in your life right now that you do not feel grateful for, chnage it, get rid of it, dig up the foul ground....Be honest with who you are and decide that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of THIS THING constantly rearing its ugly head on your life....Change happens as soon as you decide to change

4. Do something about the ungrateful. Don't just make the decision that it has to go, put it out! Take ACTION! Take authority over that thing and put it in the box to the left (as Beyonce' sings about in her song, Irreplaceable) Then of course you know what I'm going to tell you to do....BURN the BOX!!!!!

There are many things for which you can and should be grateful, in fact, you should be grateful for every experience, lesson, person, place or thing that comes into your life. Good, bad or indifferent there is a reason for it, get the lesson and move on in gratitude. Having an attitude of gratitude at all times makes you the cup and then you can control the overflow and make sure that you always have more than enough so that you can give freely unto others....

Be honest with yourself...What are you ungrateful for? Get the help of a Life Coach to dig up the foul ground, plant new seed and water that seed while they help you to wait on your harvest....

At Incredible One Enterprises, it is our goal to define and unleash the Incredible in you. We are bringing Incredible back. Our Burn the Box Coaching Program is transforming lives and enabling people to become an active participant in their success. They are getting Big RESULTS. We'd love to help you. Request a FREE coaching consultation today at http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com/coaching_consult_form

Be Honest....Be Authentic...Be Grateful...Be Incredible

And Happy Thanksgiving...

Copyright (c) 2009 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved.

93 Days to Change

As of today, September 30, 2009, there are exactly 93 days left in 2009, the year of Manifestation.

How's it been for you?
Have you manifested anything new?
Have you carried over everything you claimed to leave in 08?
Are you still trying to figure out what you are here for?
Are you sick and tired of the financial stress and strain?

On the evening of my 33rd birthday (Nov 16, 2008), I declared this year my "Double and Triple for my Trouble" year and I consistently reinforced that each day during my morning "workshop" where I visualize and create the life I want via mental images and pictures. And I am excited to say, that this has been a Banner year; in fact, I am living my dream and experiencing all kinds of expectation and manifestation each day. What will happen for me today...Something Incredible because I have already taken the time to create it!!!

Now, without telling ALL of my business let me encourage you that 2008 was probably my worst year ever...everything that could go wrong did but you know why? Because I CHOSE to let it. That's right, we get to choose how life goes down. We can choose to be a victim of our circumstances or we can declare ourselves a Victor and walk into the greatness that we were born into. It may not be wasy; but it will certainly be worth it. Just one year later, look at me. Change happens as quickly as you LET it. That's right...get out of your own way.

Trust me, this is not just theory. I am speaking cold, hard truth and facts. I can clearly back up every claim I am making. In fact, anyone who lives from a place of abundance can corroborate my statement.

From what place are you living?

When you wake up, what do you tell yourself? What do you profess and visualize happening to you? When you wake up are you on top of the world or is the world on top of you?

There are 93 days left to make an IMPACT on your year to manifest what you want but you can only do that if you have the right "tools" to create the masterpiece.

Repeat after me...."I ,_____________, am about to change my situation. Because Darnyelle is going to share some Incredible information that will lead to significant transformation."

If you can get excited about transformation, contact me for a FREE 30 minute consultation to help you get out of your own way and walk into what is waiting for you: Your INCREDIBLE Life.

PS - If are a lady and are SERIOUS about Transformation, we have a few spaces left for our Incredible Power 20 hours of transformation sleepover retreat next Friday and Saturday in Philly. For more informaton, please visit http://www.ipsleepover.eventbrite.com. Secure your space with a $50 non-refundable deposit today.

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Darnyelle A. Jervey is the CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC a full service empowerment firm committed to transformation via keynotes, coaching, seminars and workshops. For more information, please visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

5 Ways to Look Ahead!

Vision: 5 Ways to Look Ahead
"Look back...get stuck; look straight...maintain; look ahead...grow." Darnyelle A. Jervey

Where we focus our eyes means a lot; the windows to our soul have the ability and propensity to shape our existence and determine the level of success we will enjoy in our lives. Think about it. Helen Keller is quoted as saying "there is nothing more pathetic than having sight but no vision."

And vision is exactly to what I am referring today.

When you look back, your past is still dictating your life's path. Phrases like "what had happened was..., I'm this way because when I was little..., My mother and father did this to me..." When we will you stop allowing your past to speak? The past is a cancelled check; we cannot get anything for it so why are we still looking there? Please show me an example of someone who has focused on the past and increased their future's success? Exactly.

When you choose to focus your eyes right in front of you, your vision is limited because your scope and/or frame of reference is limited; how can you possibly conquer the world when all you are able to visualize is right in front of you. In these cases, you are just doing enough to get by. Nothing more, nothing less. Why in the world would the God of everything restrict your vision to just that which is right in front of you? He wouldn't His word says, 'people perish for lack of vision' (Proverbs 29:18)

But when you look ahead, get excited, your whole world comes into view and you allow the possibility of a thing to guide you along as your vision becomes your focal point. The sky truly is the limit when you believe that anything is possible. Please do not limit yourself to only look straight in front of you. Look ahead and watch the incredible things that happen.

Even as a young girl, I was always looking ahead...to the next thing. My environment wasn't the most positive...we don't need to dweel on that; we've all got a story and mostly it's the same....the point is this, I didn't allow my surroundings to stifle me.I continued to look ahead. I never wanted to be defined by my situation, my promise was always my motivation to keep looking beyond what I saw right in front of me. Whatever your current circumstances, it is not forever, it is just for now so look ahead to better days and prepare yourself for the harvest that is to come.

Here's what you can do:
1. Position yourself to let the past go. It may not be easy but what that we really want ever is? If you need a coach to help you "Burn the Box", click here to contact me to schedule your FREE 30-minute consultation.

2.Make a list of the benefits of looking ahead. Knowing the pros and cons of any action helps us to solidify what we do. Why do you need to let the past go? Because it is stifling your future!

3. Make a vision board - what does your life look like? What do you want to see in your future. Remember, what gets attended to gets done so get to mapping it out.

4. Visualize yourself where you are going. Don't think about where you are right now, think about where you are going. Start each new day with gratitude and then statements that begin "Today, I see myself...."

5. Believe that anything is possible by aligning your vision with action and do it! Make a step each day toward your end result.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

The Most Powerful Tool in YOUR World

Everybody possesses one. Everybody uses this tool each day...some of us build things, others of us tear things down...some of us even let it lay dormant what do you do...do you use your constructively...or do you tear down walls and people with your tool.

If you haven't guessed it by now, I am talking about your tongue. After all, "it is the most powerful tool you will ever possess and use...use it properly and you can fix anything." When I realized the power that lied in my tongue and how by simply changing the way I spoke about my situations, problems, concerns, etc, I could shift and change things and prevent ill thoughts from ruining my day....so many things changed. Incredible things started to happen.


I remember back in the day when I had a filthy mouth and as a young lady, my speech was not reflective of the way I wished that people would treat me. Almost like turning on the light, I realized that I only had a potty mouth in certain circumstances. Well, I figured that if I could control it sometimes, I could control it at all times and from then on I began to act and speak like the young lady that I wanted to be considered as. By switching the context in which I used my tool, I noticed so many things changing in and around me. I naturally got more respect from my co-workers and my friends started to take me seriously. I started to take me seriously. When I noticed the power with which I spoke and how people listened to what I had to say because I had a valuable contribution to any meeting or conversation, it boosted my confidence and showed me of the power that had been laying dormant all because I didn't apply my tool correctly to fix and change the mindsets of others, including myself.


The tongue is a powerful tool. What do you fix with yours? It's been said that we need to stop telling God our problems and start telling our problems about God...that's a great way to use your tool, isn't it? The key here is to stop talking about things you cannot change and to focus your tongue, time and attention on things that you can....Change what you speak and watch what you seek also change...I invite you to take your tool and use it to fix something or someone by offering words of edification and encouragement. I encourage you to realize that when you speak the Incredible, Incredible things will happen.

After all, if you don't have anything empowering to say, you shouldn't say anything at all.

Darnyelle A. Jervey is an empowerment speaker, author and consultant and the CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC. For more information visit: www.incredibleoneenterprises.com

Re-Position Yourself

Over the past couple of weeks, I have noticed that I have consistently been saying the following phrase: "you have to put yourself in a position," and it got me to thinking: for as much as I have said it, clearly there is a reason and the reason is that people need to reposition themselves so that they can see the invisible, dream the incredible and do the impossible.

I love to share that expansion creates exposure to the possibility of the thing that you want/need in your life. Take riding on an airplane. Blessfully, you get a FREE upgrade to 1st class. You are excited and your mind naturally starts to think bigger and as you think bigger, you expose yourself to thoughts of consistent grandeur. You start popping your collar and walking taller because you have arrived at the defining moment in your travel rolodex....you are in a bigger, better position because the trigger of a FREE upgrade has expanded your mind and exposed you to the possibility of a new thing. Incredible One, you must re-position yourself to think. First and foremost to think. Simply to think. Second to think a different thought. The time is up for trying to be just like the current big thing. Be authentic to who you are and be the Incredible You that you were created to be. And to get to that destination, you must reposition yourself.

Be Incredible,
Darnyelle

Rain Produces Rainbows

Hello, Incredible One!

The rain is such a simple thing. Do you ever take the time to just watch the rain? Each drop lands in a different spot. The exact spot where the drops fall was predetermined by God to ensure that the water gets to the exact area of your life that needs to be revived and refreshed, isn't that Incredible!!!!

God, the author and finisher of my faith, strategically places each drop from behind the clouds allowing there to be a mass production of living water in my life. Isn't that Incredible?

The rain allows the water to flow creating waves in our lives. Each wave has the ability to produce a reaction that can take us from normal to Incredible....will you allow the wave to come in and evoke the necessary change in your life?

When the rain is over, we are left different. If we look closely, we should see tiny rays of color where the drops designed by God once fell. Those raindrops created rainbows, signifying God's promises in our lives.

Here are some of the things that God has promised you:
1. A right to a life more abundant
2. He will never leave nor forsake you
3. He will be your bridge over troubled waters
4. He will make your enemies your foot stool
5. If you in all your ways acknowledge him, he will give you the desires of your heart.... now that's Incredible!!!

Darnyelle A. Jervey is a success coach, motivational speaker and author. She is the Founder and CEO of Incredible One Enterprises. For more information, go to www.incredibleoneenterprises