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Last week, we talked about Purposeful Passion. Today's all about your attitude. You've heard it said and probably have even said it yourself. Do everything right with the wrong attitude and fall on your face. Do everything wrong with the right attitude and living Incredibly - okay, maybe you've never heard it quite that way - smile. One trueism indeed is that attitude is everything and how you respond to what happens around you shadows your realm of experience. 95% of everything is your attitude and 5% is skill; get excited because if you have the right mindset - one set on abundance, which by the way is not material in the least, all things will work together for your good.
As you walk it out today, allow these tips about an attitude of abundance to color your experience:
1. Make a non-negotiable decision that you will be positive and only focus on positive experiences.
2. Focus on looking at the best in every situation and person with who you come into contact.
3. Attract people who also have a positive attitude because you become like those you hang around.
4. If you don't have anything nice to say, remain quiet!
5. Focus on the things that you are grateful for instead of the things you wish you could change, especially if you cannot control them.
6. Repeat each day so that everyday presents you with an attitude of abundance.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker, coach and author of 5 empowerment books. She is the Founder and CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC. For more information, please visit www.darnyelle.com
Showing posts with label attitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label attitude. Show all posts
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
The Man in the Mirror
'I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer, if you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change." Michael Jackson
I, too, have decided to start with the woman in the mirror....in fact, I start with her every morning and I ask myself, "who can I help today so that God gets the glory and I live my purpose?" I think that we rush through life and forget to take the time to examine ourselves and ensure that we are being authentic and effectively using integrity and service as our most powerful character trait.
When I started Incredible One Enterprises, I developed a lot of "Incredible-isms" to illustrate the steps I believe are necessary to operate an Incredible life. One of those steps/principles, is the concept I aptly titled 'Inspect the Incredible' or completing that all important self-assessment. I can't remember which rap group and song says "check yourself before you wreck yourself," but that is exactly what comes to mind when I think of Michael Jackson's song and my concept of Inspecting the Incredible.
It is so important to take a look at your life and make sure that who you are is who you want to be and who others see you as is who you want to be seen as. Now, I am not suggesting that you allow others opinions of you to carry too much weight, but I do believe that you can tell a tree (a pillar of society that offers nourishment and strength) by the fruit it bears and of course you alredy know that if you are going to bear fruit, I think it should be passion fruit!
So how often do I complete this "Inspect the Incredible" step, Darnyelle? The simple answer is as often as you feel the need but minimally, I believe that each quarter or as the seasons change, we need to begin by inspecting ourselves. Each season in our life brings new challenges and rewards and having the personal stability to weather the seasons is essential to the Incredible You.
What do I do when I am "Inspecting the Incredible," Darnyelle? To borrow/rearrange a line from a Smokey Robinson hit, "Tracks of My Tears," "Take a good look at your face but if your smile is out of place, look closer and start to trace what needs to change in order for that frown to become a smile again. I think that being honest with yourself and asking yourself those tough questions like, "what do I hear about me from other people?, who do I think that I am? Am I successful at creating a brand that speaks to who I believe God created me to be?, etc. is a good place to start. I would also like to point out getting my 2nd book, The Incredible You can help as I included a detailed, thought provoking self-assessment in the book and my readers are telling me that it was just what they needed to finally define and unleash the Incredible inside.
There is so much more to Inspecting the Incredible....determining if your life bears fruit is so essential and of course, you've got to ask yourself if you are fertilizer or weed killer....adding or subtracting value....keeping relationships with people who are where you want to be and pulling you up versus bringing you down....keeping a positive attitude...speaking life affirming words over yourself and others....I could go on and on....
I think you get my point.
Grab a mirror and get started. We will all be glad that you did.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Darnyelle A. Jervey is the founder and Chief Empowerment Officer of Incredible One Enterprises,LLC a full service empowerment firm specializing in keynotes, seminars, workshops and books designed to define and unleash the Incredible in you using her P.A.C.E. Method. For more information, please visit www.darnyelle.com
I, too, have decided to start with the woman in the mirror....in fact, I start with her every morning and I ask myself, "who can I help today so that God gets the glory and I live my purpose?" I think that we rush through life and forget to take the time to examine ourselves and ensure that we are being authentic and effectively using integrity and service as our most powerful character trait.
When I started Incredible One Enterprises, I developed a lot of "Incredible-isms" to illustrate the steps I believe are necessary to operate an Incredible life. One of those steps/principles, is the concept I aptly titled 'Inspect the Incredible' or completing that all important self-assessment. I can't remember which rap group and song says "check yourself before you wreck yourself," but that is exactly what comes to mind when I think of Michael Jackson's song and my concept of Inspecting the Incredible.
It is so important to take a look at your life and make sure that who you are is who you want to be and who others see you as is who you want to be seen as. Now, I am not suggesting that you allow others opinions of you to carry too much weight, but I do believe that you can tell a tree (a pillar of society that offers nourishment and strength) by the fruit it bears and of course you alredy know that if you are going to bear fruit, I think it should be passion fruit!
So how often do I complete this "Inspect the Incredible" step, Darnyelle? The simple answer is as often as you feel the need but minimally, I believe that each quarter or as the seasons change, we need to begin by inspecting ourselves. Each season in our life brings new challenges and rewards and having the personal stability to weather the seasons is essential to the Incredible You.
What do I do when I am "Inspecting the Incredible," Darnyelle? To borrow/rearrange a line from a Smokey Robinson hit, "Tracks of My Tears," "Take a good look at your face but if your smile is out of place, look closer and start to trace what needs to change in order for that frown to become a smile again. I think that being honest with yourself and asking yourself those tough questions like, "what do I hear about me from other people?, who do I think that I am? Am I successful at creating a brand that speaks to who I believe God created me to be?, etc. is a good place to start. I would also like to point out getting my 2nd book, The Incredible You can help as I included a detailed, thought provoking self-assessment in the book and my readers are telling me that it was just what they needed to finally define and unleash the Incredible inside.
There is so much more to Inspecting the Incredible....determining if your life bears fruit is so essential and of course, you've got to ask yourself if you are fertilizer or weed killer....adding or subtracting value....keeping relationships with people who are where you want to be and pulling you up versus bringing you down....keeping a positive attitude...speaking life affirming words over yourself and others....I could go on and on....
I think you get my point.
Grab a mirror and get started. We will all be glad that you did.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Darnyelle A. Jervey is the founder and Chief Empowerment Officer of Incredible One Enterprises,LLC a full service empowerment firm specializing in keynotes, seminars, workshops and books designed to define and unleash the Incredible in you using her P.A.C.E. Method. For more information, please visit www.darnyelle.com
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
It's not Forever...
"When your situation is not your ideal, remember, it's not forever, it's just for now." Darnyelle A. Jervey
I don't know about you but I have had my share of bad moments over the past couple of weeks. Can I be real with you? I know that when you are the "empowerment speaker" everyone believes that you wake up each day on top of the world. Can I set the record straight? We do not. We have the same obstacles and issues affecting us as you. There are no super girl panties to put on, lotions or other creams to spread on, etc that make the disappointments and heartaches dissipate. I hurt, I get discouraged and sometimes I even take my eyes off the prize and focus on my situation and not my promise...Yes, me. Remember, I am keeping it real today.
Sometimes "Walk it Out" Wednesday is about Walking into those things holding you back full force. I walk that you might walk away from your disappointments and walk toward your destiny....
But I hope that my transparency encourages you. Over the past couple of weeks I have been fixated on a quote I first heard Pastor Marvin Sapp say on the intro to his hit "Praise Him in Advance." He said, "A Worshipper in one who refuses to let what they see hinder what they believe." I get excited about this quote because we all have problems, troubles, issues, but the way we look at those very things is what determines how long we stay in that state and let the pity party music play.
Are y'all still with me?
I was about to send the invitations to a pity party last Friday when my significant other reminded me of who I am....Not that I forgot on purpose, but I temporarily allowed what I saw to hinder what I believed. I am so glad that he called me and put my in my place and restored my confidence. Yeah, my confidence. I know that I edify you and give you something to chew on, but I need to be encouraged too. It is difficult to bear the task to empower others because everyone feels like "you've got it going on," or "you always have your stuff together," and that is far from the truth some of the time.
So as I looked at my situation on Friday, after our phone call was over and I was feeling a little better about my situation, I remembered that it is not forever, it is just for now. Repeat it with me....It's not forever, it's just for now. The economy, your growing debt, your job that you despise, your car keeps breaking down, your relationship with that person who truly is not worthy of you but you can't find the strength to walk away, your house is too small,too dirty, etc no matter what the issue it's not forever, it's just for now.
I promise you this, if you focus on your promise and not your problems, they will start to bother you a little less each day....remember 95% of everything we do is our attitude...how do you look at the glass on the table...half full, half empty, drip dry....running over?
When your bad days take over your good days, remember it's not forever, it's just for now and make the non-negotiable decision to refuse to allow what you see to hinder what you believe.
Be Incredible,it's already in you.
Darnyelle A. Jervey
Darnyelle is the founder & CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC a full service empowerment firm. For more information or to subscribe to her weekly newsletter, go to www.darnyelle.com.
I don't know about you but I have had my share of bad moments over the past couple of weeks. Can I be real with you? I know that when you are the "empowerment speaker" everyone believes that you wake up each day on top of the world. Can I set the record straight? We do not. We have the same obstacles and issues affecting us as you. There are no super girl panties to put on, lotions or other creams to spread on, etc that make the disappointments and heartaches dissipate. I hurt, I get discouraged and sometimes I even take my eyes off the prize and focus on my situation and not my promise...Yes, me. Remember, I am keeping it real today.
Sometimes "Walk it Out" Wednesday is about Walking into those things holding you back full force. I walk that you might walk away from your disappointments and walk toward your destiny....
But I hope that my transparency encourages you. Over the past couple of weeks I have been fixated on a quote I first heard Pastor Marvin Sapp say on the intro to his hit "Praise Him in Advance." He said, "A Worshipper in one who refuses to let what they see hinder what they believe." I get excited about this quote because we all have problems, troubles, issues, but the way we look at those very things is what determines how long we stay in that state and let the pity party music play.
Are y'all still with me?
I was about to send the invitations to a pity party last Friday when my significant other reminded me of who I am....Not that I forgot on purpose, but I temporarily allowed what I saw to hinder what I believed. I am so glad that he called me and put my in my place and restored my confidence. Yeah, my confidence. I know that I edify you and give you something to chew on, but I need to be encouraged too. It is difficult to bear the task to empower others because everyone feels like "you've got it going on," or "you always have your stuff together," and that is far from the truth some of the time.
So as I looked at my situation on Friday, after our phone call was over and I was feeling a little better about my situation, I remembered that it is not forever, it is just for now. Repeat it with me....It's not forever, it's just for now. The economy, your growing debt, your job that you despise, your car keeps breaking down, your relationship with that person who truly is not worthy of you but you can't find the strength to walk away, your house is too small,too dirty, etc no matter what the issue it's not forever, it's just for now.
I promise you this, if you focus on your promise and not your problems, they will start to bother you a little less each day....remember 95% of everything we do is our attitude...how do you look at the glass on the table...half full, half empty, drip dry....running over?
When your bad days take over your good days, remember it's not forever, it's just for now and make the non-negotiable decision to refuse to allow what you see to hinder what you believe.
Be Incredible,it's already in you.
Darnyelle A. Jervey
Darnyelle is the founder & CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC a full service empowerment firm. For more information or to subscribe to her weekly newsletter, go to www.darnyelle.com.
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