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Everybody possesses one. Everybody uses this tool each day...some of us build things, others of us tear things down...some of us even let it lay dormant what do you do...do you use your constructively...or do you tear down walls and people with your tool.
If you haven't guessed it by now, I am talking about your tongue. After all, "it is the most powerful tool you will ever possess and use...use it properly and you can fix anything." When I realized the power that lied in my tongue and how by simply changing the way I spoke about my situations, problems, concerns, etc, I could shift and change things and prevent ill thoughts from ruining my day....so many things changed. Incredible things started to happen.
I remember back in the day when I had a filthy mouth and as a young lady, my speech was not reflective of the way I wished that people would treat me. Almost like turning on the light, I realized that I only had a potty mouth in certain circumstances. Well, I figured that if I could control it sometimes, I could control it at all times and from then on I began to act and speak like the young lady that I wanted to be considered as. By switching the context in which I used my tool, I noticed so many things changing in and around me. I naturally got more respect from my co-workers and my friends started to take me seriously. I started to take me seriously. When I noticed the power with which I spoke and how people listened to what I had to say because I had a valuable contribution to any meeting or conversation, it boosted my confidence and showed me of the power that had been laying dormant all because I didn't apply my tool correctly to fix and change the mindsets of others, including myself.
The tongue is a powerful tool. What do you fix with yours? It's been said that we need to stop telling God our problems and start telling our problems about God...that's a great way to use your tool, isn't it? The key here is to stop talking about things you cannot change and to focus your tongue, time and attention on things that you can....Change what you speak and watch what you seek also change...I invite you to take your tool and use it to fix something or someone by offering words of edification and encouragement. I encourage you to realize that when you speak the Incredible, Incredible things will happen.
After all, if you don't have anything empowering to say, you shouldn't say anything at all.
Darnyelle A. Jervey is an empowerment speaker, author and consultant and the CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC. For more information visit: www.incredibleoneenterprises.com
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Fear, no match for Faith
"When you know your purpose, your fear is no match for your faith." Darnyelle A. Jervey.
As I was getting dressed this morning, I clearly heard my spirit say that my faith would always conquer my fear; I had made up my mind, I have made a non-negotiable decision that fear and faith will never occupy the same place in my life. I often have decisions to make, concerns that may be facing me but I never give them room to deter me from my path; you see, I know my purpose.
How about you?
Do I get fearful sometimes? Of course, I am human. But I never let that fear keep me from getting up and doing it anyway. I believe it is an anynomous quote "Feel the fear but do it anyway," and that is exactly what I do. Fear is nothing more than false evidence appearing as if it were real. Basically our minds play tricks on us and when we are not fully convinced that we can defeat the fear, it wins. But I say that it is time to rise up against your fears and do it anyway. Fear and faith are like oil and water and they will never mix but I think that if you decide today to find your purpose, you will realize the significance of faith in your life. Purpose when manifested will give you a confidence that is out of this world and allow you to reposition yourself to do great things because you know what you are here for. Here aree a few quick tips to help you:
1. Get to a quite place and Inspect the Incredible by completing a self assessment - find out who you are...my book, The Incredible You can help you to define the Incredible in You and unleash your passion.
2. Make a non-negotiable decision that once you have determined your purpose, no matter what comes your way, you will pursue it passionately.
3. Never give up on you no matter what others say and do.
4. Believe that you can do anything to which you put your mind.
5. Attract the Incredible or surround yourself with people who can encourage ande edify you to make it happen.
Need a confidence boost, do it anyway. Don't let fear keep you from your destiny...remember what God has for you, is yours. So feel the fear but do it anyway. After all, "When you know your purpose, your fear will be no match for your faith."
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
As I was getting dressed this morning, I clearly heard my spirit say that my faith would always conquer my fear; I had made up my mind, I have made a non-negotiable decision that fear and faith will never occupy the same place in my life. I often have decisions to make, concerns that may be facing me but I never give them room to deter me from my path; you see, I know my purpose.
How about you?
Do I get fearful sometimes? Of course, I am human. But I never let that fear keep me from getting up and doing it anyway. I believe it is an anynomous quote "Feel the fear but do it anyway," and that is exactly what I do. Fear is nothing more than false evidence appearing as if it were real. Basically our minds play tricks on us and when we are not fully convinced that we can defeat the fear, it wins. But I say that it is time to rise up against your fears and do it anyway. Fear and faith are like oil and water and they will never mix but I think that if you decide today to find your purpose, you will realize the significance of faith in your life. Purpose when manifested will give you a confidence that is out of this world and allow you to reposition yourself to do great things because you know what you are here for. Here aree a few quick tips to help you:
1. Get to a quite place and Inspect the Incredible by completing a self assessment - find out who you are...my book, The Incredible You can help you to define the Incredible in You and unleash your passion.
2. Make a non-negotiable decision that once you have determined your purpose, no matter what comes your way, you will pursue it passionately.
3. Never give up on you no matter what others say and do.
4. Believe that you can do anything to which you put your mind.
5. Attract the Incredible or surround yourself with people who can encourage ande edify you to make it happen.
Need a confidence boost, do it anyway. Don't let fear keep you from your destiny...remember what God has for you, is yours. So feel the fear but do it anyway. After all, "When you know your purpose, your fear will be no match for your faith."
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Are you a Passionista?
A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of sitting on a panel for entrepreneurs who have a desire to turn their passion into a paycheck. One of my fellow panelists said something that spurred a couple of incredible emotions in me and really made me look at the passion that rests inside of my bosom. I decided a long time ago and I wanted to make sure that whatever I did when I grew up, it would bear fruit. But not just any fruit, passion fruit. Passion fruit is sweet, juicy and full of vitamins and effective minerals to aid the body in digestion, weight loss and other key things. So I took the analogy of being a passion fruit bearer to the next level and decided to make sure that everything that I did, personally and professionally would have to be sweet, juicy and full of vitamins and effective minerals for the personal and professional growth of others as well as myself. So, to make it happen I employed a few simple steps that I am asking you now so that you can determine if you, too are a passionista, capable of bearing that sweet, juicy, vitamin fruit not just for yourself but also for the others who will follow the lead that you set in your life.
You might be a passionista if you:
1. Have identified your Purpose. Knowing what you are here for is so important if you want to exude passion or, the ability to eat, sleep and drink about that thing that makes it alright that other areas of your life go untouched or uninfluenced so long as your passion is ignited and you are working hard to make your dream and zest for life come true...in whatever form it is currently taking. Passion means that you will "pass it on" to others so that you can inspire and ignite them to burn the box of trepidation, despair and doubt and move into peace, performance and prosperity.
2. Have an Abundance mentality. - Poverty is a mindset. There are many people who lack financial resources that are rich because their mindset is full of hope, desire, determination and most importantly abundance. Even when you lack, you can have so much if you remove mediocrity from your vocabulary.
3. Have decided that you will create your own destiny in Confidence. Success is not for the faint at heart. If you want big things, you must do big things. You must fail big but you must get back up and keep it moving. Confidence says "I've got this, without saying a word." Confidence knows that no matter what it looks like right now, I am on top of my game and I will not give up no matter what. To be a true passionista, confidence must be your mainstay in life because I promise you that the disappointments and moments of despair are coming. Sometimes we can see them far off, other times we cannot, but a confident passionista does not get alarmed regardless of what the situation looks like.
4. Have decided that you will not allow what you see to adversely affect what you believe. I am sure that this one is pretty self-explanatory. Your faith aligns with your P.A.C.E.
5. Are enthusiastically expecting for the best in all situations. Again, expectation does not look at right now, it looks at what is to come. Expectation does not get caught up in where you are from because it is already looking ahead to where you are going!
6. Cannot sleep at night because the assignment you've been given keeps a fire burning in your heart that says "I cannot rest until I have done what I set out to do."
7. Surround yourself with Incredible people...people who speak the Incredible, live in power and expect the Incredible in their lives. You become like the 5 people with whom you spend most of your time....Are they powerful? Are they Incredible, Are they a passionista?
8. Are a thermistat and not a thermometer...Thermometers are controlled by their surroundings…changing their temperature to suit the environment in which they are positioned; yet, thermistats set the P.A.C.E. and determine the levels of control in their lives. As a passionista, you must be in control of something - your mind, will and emotions.
9. Are fertilizer and not weed killer. Are you nourishing good ground with your words, thoughts and actions or are you killing the hopes and dreams of another because you are an Incredible SnatcherTM? Or better still are you killing yourself softly with your doubt, debt and despair?
10. Complete a self-assessment or Inspect the Incredible that you are to become on a frequent basis. As they say, “school is never out for the pro.” Well, change is never out for the Incredible. Move with the cheese, yet stand firm in your determination and non-negotiable decision to achieve your heart's desire by being a living example of passion fruit and bearing your passion proudly and boldly for all to see and marvel while they say, "Man, he/she is Incredible! He/She must be a Passionista!”
Darnyelle A. Jervey is an empowerment speaker, author and consultant from Newark DE. Are you a Passionista is an original work of Darnyelle A. Jervey, Founder of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC. For more information, please see www.incredibleoneenterprises.com or www.darnyellespeaks.com. All rights reserved. 2009
You might be a passionista if you:
1. Have identified your Purpose. Knowing what you are here for is so important if you want to exude passion or, the ability to eat, sleep and drink about that thing that makes it alright that other areas of your life go untouched or uninfluenced so long as your passion is ignited and you are working hard to make your dream and zest for life come true...in whatever form it is currently taking. Passion means that you will "pass it on" to others so that you can inspire and ignite them to burn the box of trepidation, despair and doubt and move into peace, performance and prosperity.
2. Have an Abundance mentality. - Poverty is a mindset. There are many people who lack financial resources that are rich because their mindset is full of hope, desire, determination and most importantly abundance. Even when you lack, you can have so much if you remove mediocrity from your vocabulary.
3. Have decided that you will create your own destiny in Confidence. Success is not for the faint at heart. If you want big things, you must do big things. You must fail big but you must get back up and keep it moving. Confidence says "I've got this, without saying a word." Confidence knows that no matter what it looks like right now, I am on top of my game and I will not give up no matter what. To be a true passionista, confidence must be your mainstay in life because I promise you that the disappointments and moments of despair are coming. Sometimes we can see them far off, other times we cannot, but a confident passionista does not get alarmed regardless of what the situation looks like.
4. Have decided that you will not allow what you see to adversely affect what you believe. I am sure that this one is pretty self-explanatory. Your faith aligns with your P.A.C.E.
5. Are enthusiastically expecting for the best in all situations. Again, expectation does not look at right now, it looks at what is to come. Expectation does not get caught up in where you are from because it is already looking ahead to where you are going!
6. Cannot sleep at night because the assignment you've been given keeps a fire burning in your heart that says "I cannot rest until I have done what I set out to do."
7. Surround yourself with Incredible people...people who speak the Incredible, live in power and expect the Incredible in their lives. You become like the 5 people with whom you spend most of your time....Are they powerful? Are they Incredible, Are they a passionista?
8. Are a thermistat and not a thermometer...Thermometers are controlled by their surroundings…changing their temperature to suit the environment in which they are positioned; yet, thermistats set the P.A.C.E. and determine the levels of control in their lives. As a passionista, you must be in control of something - your mind, will and emotions.
9. Are fertilizer and not weed killer. Are you nourishing good ground with your words, thoughts and actions or are you killing the hopes and dreams of another because you are an Incredible SnatcherTM? Or better still are you killing yourself softly with your doubt, debt and despair?
10. Complete a self-assessment or Inspect the Incredible that you are to become on a frequent basis. As they say, “school is never out for the pro.” Well, change is never out for the Incredible. Move with the cheese, yet stand firm in your determination and non-negotiable decision to achieve your heart's desire by being a living example of passion fruit and bearing your passion proudly and boldly for all to see and marvel while they say, "Man, he/she is Incredible! He/She must be a Passionista!”
Darnyelle A. Jervey is an empowerment speaker, author and consultant from Newark DE. Are you a Passionista is an original work of Darnyelle A. Jervey, Founder of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC. For more information, please see www.incredibleoneenterprises.com or www.darnyellespeaks.com. All rights reserved. 2009
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