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Sunday, February 8, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
Be happy an excerpt from The Incredible You
I love Mary J. Blige’s song “Be Happy.” It is truly all that I believe that you want. Wouldn’t it be great to find the life that is yours? Even when I think of Bobby Darrin and his hit “Don’t Worry, Be Happy,” I have to smile. The time for drama, depression, desperation and drought is over! The time has come for passion, abundance, confidence and expectation. It’s time to be happy.
Happiness is a state of mind but it is so essential to the Incredible You. I think so many people have it wrong; they think that things make them happy. What I know to be true is that being happy is not an end result of getting lots of things. Being happy is the place to start if you want to become the Incredible You. Think about it - when you feel good everything seems to go your way. You may call it being lucky or having a good day. I call it being happy and ultimately fulfilled. When in actuality, the way you feel is the reason for the success you are enjoying at that moment; your mind has allowed you to experience a feeling of euphoria.
It may take you a minute to realize that the success you feel is as a result of your state of mind. But once you do, you will want to strive to always be in your happy place. Happiness, when mastered, will prevent days when you are unhappy. Your outlook on life will be different and you will be able to consistently see the joy in every situation.
When I learned to be happy, so many things in my life changed. You’ve heard the old adage “When life gives you lemons make lemonade?” Well, I took that phrase to heart and started to find a way to make lemonade out of every situation in my life. We choose to allow ourselves to be victims or victors and happiness is a choice. Becoming the Incredible You is a choice. Clearly it is your goal or you would not be reading this book – smile.
Life is full of choices and choosing to be happy is a very good one. Not only do life and death lie in the power of the tongue, but they also lie in the power of the mind. When you choose to be happy, you are choosing a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment that is out of this world.
Want to turn a sad day into a happy one? Pay attention to your thoughts. Like the Bible says, “As a man thinks, so is he.” So if you want to be happy, you must think happiness. I believe that so many of us have an invalid definition of happiness so to be sure, I would like to define it for you.
According to Webster’s New World Dictionary, happiness is having, showing or causing a feeling of great pleasure, contentment or joy; favored by circumstance. I want you to get excited because happiness means that you are favored. As discussed in an earlier principle, expecting unmerited favor in your life is an important part of the Incredible You. I encourage you to expect unmerited happiness and allow the way that you look at the world to shadow all of the experiences that you have while you are here.
Take it from me; I have been a person with a bad attitude. There is nothing enlightened about having a negative outlook on life. In fact, I remember always being miserable and always blaming someone else for my struggles when truly the culprit was me.
I decided to change my destiny by changing my mindset; I decided to be happy. Simply put, I started to look for the “silver lining” in all situations and before I knew it, my glass was half-full and I was optimistic as opposed to the pessimist that I use to be. Every time I noticed myself in a good mood, I captured that moment and stored it in my heart. After a while, I had a bank of good thoughts and feelings to go back to and draw from when I was not having a pleasant experience.
Realize you are in charge of your well being and control it with your thoughts and emotions. So be happy first. Go for it. You deserve the best!
Bottom line: You must believe in the power to be happy. There is nothing more powerful in this life than the power of belief. When you can believe that anything is possible, the Incredible You will be front and center. I love the story of the bumblebee, who according to aerodynamic principles should not be able to fly. But the bumblebee believed in his heart that in order to serve his life function, he was going to have to get around and he did it; he flied away breaking a significant belief barrier.
As a child, I believed that I was supposed to be more than what I was experiencing. That belief in my heart, although it laid dormant for years, was always there inspiring me to be better, stronger and wiser. I believe that nothing happens by mistake and so I had to experience a life of non-belief so that when I started to believe, the power of my own belief and faith would be magnified for me and others. When I started to believe in myself and believe that my dreams were possible and not just figments of my imagination, my life really started. I got a new attitude and in so doing put myself in a position to influence my future. I have consistently said that life is 95% attitude and we get to make a choice every day about how we want that day to go. I decide everyday to live with a full glass and an outlook on life that tells me that I can do anything because I believe that I can. I choose to be happy.
Belief is the most passionate gift in life; it is an illustration in our ability to trust. When what we believe is true and what we believe is possible, it will become a truth and possibility for us. I encourage you again to be happy, the Incredible You deserves it!
Happiness is a state of mind but it is so essential to the Incredible You. I think so many people have it wrong; they think that things make them happy. What I know to be true is that being happy is not an end result of getting lots of things. Being happy is the place to start if you want to become the Incredible You. Think about it - when you feel good everything seems to go your way. You may call it being lucky or having a good day. I call it being happy and ultimately fulfilled. When in actuality, the way you feel is the reason for the success you are enjoying at that moment; your mind has allowed you to experience a feeling of euphoria.
It may take you a minute to realize that the success you feel is as a result of your state of mind. But once you do, you will want to strive to always be in your happy place. Happiness, when mastered, will prevent days when you are unhappy. Your outlook on life will be different and you will be able to consistently see the joy in every situation.
When I learned to be happy, so many things in my life changed. You’ve heard the old adage “When life gives you lemons make lemonade?” Well, I took that phrase to heart and started to find a way to make lemonade out of every situation in my life. We choose to allow ourselves to be victims or victors and happiness is a choice. Becoming the Incredible You is a choice. Clearly it is your goal or you would not be reading this book – smile.
Life is full of choices and choosing to be happy is a very good one. Not only do life and death lie in the power of the tongue, but they also lie in the power of the mind. When you choose to be happy, you are choosing a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment that is out of this world.
Want to turn a sad day into a happy one? Pay attention to your thoughts. Like the Bible says, “As a man thinks, so is he.” So if you want to be happy, you must think happiness. I believe that so many of us have an invalid definition of happiness so to be sure, I would like to define it for you.
According to Webster’s New World Dictionary, happiness is having, showing or causing a feeling of great pleasure, contentment or joy; favored by circumstance. I want you to get excited because happiness means that you are favored. As discussed in an earlier principle, expecting unmerited favor in your life is an important part of the Incredible You. I encourage you to expect unmerited happiness and allow the way that you look at the world to shadow all of the experiences that you have while you are here.
Take it from me; I have been a person with a bad attitude. There is nothing enlightened about having a negative outlook on life. In fact, I remember always being miserable and always blaming someone else for my struggles when truly the culprit was me.
I decided to change my destiny by changing my mindset; I decided to be happy. Simply put, I started to look for the “silver lining” in all situations and before I knew it, my glass was half-full and I was optimistic as opposed to the pessimist that I use to be. Every time I noticed myself in a good mood, I captured that moment and stored it in my heart. After a while, I had a bank of good thoughts and feelings to go back to and draw from when I was not having a pleasant experience.
Realize you are in charge of your well being and control it with your thoughts and emotions. So be happy first. Go for it. You deserve the best!
Bottom line: You must believe in the power to be happy. There is nothing more powerful in this life than the power of belief. When you can believe that anything is possible, the Incredible You will be front and center. I love the story of the bumblebee, who according to aerodynamic principles should not be able to fly. But the bumblebee believed in his heart that in order to serve his life function, he was going to have to get around and he did it; he flied away breaking a significant belief barrier.
As a child, I believed that I was supposed to be more than what I was experiencing. That belief in my heart, although it laid dormant for years, was always there inspiring me to be better, stronger and wiser. I believe that nothing happens by mistake and so I had to experience a life of non-belief so that when I started to believe, the power of my own belief and faith would be magnified for me and others. When I started to believe in myself and believe that my dreams were possible and not just figments of my imagination, my life really started. I got a new attitude and in so doing put myself in a position to influence my future. I have consistently said that life is 95% attitude and we get to make a choice every day about how we want that day to go. I decide everyday to live with a full glass and an outlook on life that tells me that I can do anything because I believe that I can. I choose to be happy.
Belief is the most passionate gift in life; it is an illustration in our ability to trust. When what we believe is true and what we believe is possible, it will become a truth and possibility for us. I encourage you again to be happy, the Incredible You deserves it!
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Got Vision?
As a success coach and empowerment speaker, I am often challenged to help people develop vision that sees the invisible and believes that anything is possible.
When I think of vision, I am reminded of a child who has an imaginary friend. With their imaginary friend in tow, that child pursues situations and obstacles with a consistent confidence and enthusiastic expectation that is unparalleled in the world today. I often wonder why our minds don't allow us to think and act as children when it comes to taking the necessary risks and faith walks to live an Incredible life filled with dream fulfillment and passion, abundance, confidence and expectation.
As adults, we don't believe in imaginary friends, but when you have vision, you see possibilities and results that are not visible to others. Being a visionary is an important key to becoming the Incredible You. When you have vision, you have victory. One of my favorite personal statements that I created when I first started working with other people as a success coach was "if you can see the invisible, God can do the impossible, so dream the Incredible." When I say this statement each day, I am focusing on helping people to become visionaries in their lives and the lives of their family members. Situations are changed because of vision. Nothing great in this life was ever accomplished without vision. Think of anyone that you admire in this world. No matter whom they are and how significant their triumph, they possessed an uncanny ability to see the invisible and do the impossible, otherwise, you would not look up to them.
Need an example of what vision can do for you? Take Colonel Sanders of the infamous KFC chain. When he retired, he received his first social security check of less than $100, he was disappointed but he had something worth much more....his recipe for finger licking good chicken! He went out on sales calls to many restaurants offering to make chicken in their kitchens for only a portion of the proceeds of the chicken sales and they laughed at him! But his vision kept him going. He did not give up after that 1st, 2nd of 100th "no."
How many of us would have stopped?
But because of his vision, he knew that something more was around the corner and he pressed forward. Did you know that he received 1,008 "no's" before he got a "Yes?!" And the rest is history. My point? Vision keeps you going long after others have given up on you. Vision says no matter what, I believe in myself and because of that, I am worth more than what man has to say about me, my goal, my dream or my idea.
When you have the foresight to see those things that do not exist currently but know in your heart, mind and spirit that they will come to pass, you are becoming a visionary, much like the people you admire. No vision is too small and I admonish you not to compare your triumphs with those of others as we are all on an individual journey.
Visionaries think outside of the box. Visionaries are able to do things a little differently to get a victorious result. Visionaries never give up because they don't know what is coming around the next corner. It is always too early to throw in the towel on your hopes, dreams and desires.
Vision is the key to maximizing and unlocking your potential. Not a visionary? Make a non-negotiable decision that the time is now to receive the victory in your life. You can be a visionary as soon as you realize that all that it takes is for you to be able to say right now that you are able to accomplish that which you desire to do. If you can see it, it can be a reality. Do you have faith and believe that you can do anything that you put your mind to?
In this time of economic downturn, vision is looking at your checkbook and getting excited because the money is on the way. Although you can't see it now, you have full knowledge and belief that you possess what it takes to move from victim to visionary. If you want to have victory, you have to be optimistic. Is your glass half full? When your glass is half full, you are closing in on your victory. When you are able to see clearly those things which do not yet exist, you are walking in a liberating victory because those dreams, goals and desires are just an action away from becoming reality and catapulting you into a personal triumph.
Having vision is pivotal if you want to achieve anything in life. So think, see and then do. You can do it, Incredible One. I believe in you. The Incredible You is waiting; he or she is standing just behind your vision.
When I think of vision, I am reminded of a child who has an imaginary friend. With their imaginary friend in tow, that child pursues situations and obstacles with a consistent confidence and enthusiastic expectation that is unparalleled in the world today. I often wonder why our minds don't allow us to think and act as children when it comes to taking the necessary risks and faith walks to live an Incredible life filled with dream fulfillment and passion, abundance, confidence and expectation.
As adults, we don't believe in imaginary friends, but when you have vision, you see possibilities and results that are not visible to others. Being a visionary is an important key to becoming the Incredible You. When you have vision, you have victory. One of my favorite personal statements that I created when I first started working with other people as a success coach was "if you can see the invisible, God can do the impossible, so dream the Incredible." When I say this statement each day, I am focusing on helping people to become visionaries in their lives and the lives of their family members. Situations are changed because of vision. Nothing great in this life was ever accomplished without vision. Think of anyone that you admire in this world. No matter whom they are and how significant their triumph, they possessed an uncanny ability to see the invisible and do the impossible, otherwise, you would not look up to them.
Need an example of what vision can do for you? Take Colonel Sanders of the infamous KFC chain. When he retired, he received his first social security check of less than $100, he was disappointed but he had something worth much more....his recipe for finger licking good chicken! He went out on sales calls to many restaurants offering to make chicken in their kitchens for only a portion of the proceeds of the chicken sales and they laughed at him! But his vision kept him going. He did not give up after that 1st, 2nd of 100th "no."
How many of us would have stopped?
But because of his vision, he knew that something more was around the corner and he pressed forward. Did you know that he received 1,008 "no's" before he got a "Yes?!" And the rest is history. My point? Vision keeps you going long after others have given up on you. Vision says no matter what, I believe in myself and because of that, I am worth more than what man has to say about me, my goal, my dream or my idea.
When you have the foresight to see those things that do not exist currently but know in your heart, mind and spirit that they will come to pass, you are becoming a visionary, much like the people you admire. No vision is too small and I admonish you not to compare your triumphs with those of others as we are all on an individual journey.
Visionaries think outside of the box. Visionaries are able to do things a little differently to get a victorious result. Visionaries never give up because they don't know what is coming around the next corner. It is always too early to throw in the towel on your hopes, dreams and desires.
Vision is the key to maximizing and unlocking your potential. Not a visionary? Make a non-negotiable decision that the time is now to receive the victory in your life. You can be a visionary as soon as you realize that all that it takes is for you to be able to say right now that you are able to accomplish that which you desire to do. If you can see it, it can be a reality. Do you have faith and believe that you can do anything that you put your mind to?
In this time of economic downturn, vision is looking at your checkbook and getting excited because the money is on the way. Although you can't see it now, you have full knowledge and belief that you possess what it takes to move from victim to visionary. If you want to have victory, you have to be optimistic. Is your glass half full? When your glass is half full, you are closing in on your victory. When you are able to see clearly those things which do not yet exist, you are walking in a liberating victory because those dreams, goals and desires are just an action away from becoming reality and catapulting you into a personal triumph.
Having vision is pivotal if you want to achieve anything in life. So think, see and then do. You can do it, Incredible One. I believe in you. The Incredible You is waiting; he or she is standing just behind your vision.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Double for My Trouble: DAJ turns 33
As I write this, I have been 33 for one week and two days and I must admit, I am too excited. You see, I have self-proclaimed this next year of my life my "double for my trouble" year. You see, 3 stands for divine perfection, trinity and grace and with two 3's coming my way, 33 years on this, God's green earth, the way I see it, it only gets better with time. I stant to getting some serious blessings....and I am seeing doubles!
2008 was a year of lots of new beginnings, not the warm and fuzzy kind, at least not for me but it has been a great year. I learned a lot of new things about myself and about the strength that God stored up in my bosom and it has made me stronger, wiser and most importantly better. In honor of all that I was in 08, 09, the year of bearing fruit, will be my double portion year, which means that I will be opening my own produce stand!
The word I would use to describe what 08 was for me would be transition. I transitioned from everything that I knew and all the comfort that was my life. I learned how to live on the branch, where the fruit is and I learned that only what I do for God will matter. I had always been a person so concerned about what other people thought of me but as a result of several encounters with God in an intimate way, I learned that God is the absolute only determinant of who I am to be and become. As long as God is pleased, then I am all right with me!
33 is about self-realization and comfort in the skin I am in. 33 is about going after my dreams and living them with determination, honesty and integrity. 33 is about double! I am excited about being 33.
I am so excited about what is happening in my life: A new book and another on the way, an Incredible company and new business relationships and friendships that are destined to lead to greatness. A National Platform that is being birthed as I type this blog, living a life that is Incredible and enjoying every moment. Unleashing passion, abundance, confidence and expectation in my life and the lives of my clients and future clients.
I am getting double for my trouble in 09. What about you?
2008 was a year of lots of new beginnings, not the warm and fuzzy kind, at least not for me but it has been a great year. I learned a lot of new things about myself and about the strength that God stored up in my bosom and it has made me stronger, wiser and most importantly better. In honor of all that I was in 08, 09, the year of bearing fruit, will be my double portion year, which means that I will be opening my own produce stand!
The word I would use to describe what 08 was for me would be transition. I transitioned from everything that I knew and all the comfort that was my life. I learned how to live on the branch, where the fruit is and I learned that only what I do for God will matter. I had always been a person so concerned about what other people thought of me but as a result of several encounters with God in an intimate way, I learned that God is the absolute only determinant of who I am to be and become. As long as God is pleased, then I am all right with me!
33 is about self-realization and comfort in the skin I am in. 33 is about going after my dreams and living them with determination, honesty and integrity. 33 is about double! I am excited about being 33.
I am so excited about what is happening in my life: A new book and another on the way, an Incredible company and new business relationships and friendships that are destined to lead to greatness. A National Platform that is being birthed as I type this blog, living a life that is Incredible and enjoying every moment. Unleashing passion, abundance, confidence and expectation in my life and the lives of my clients and future clients.
I am getting double for my trouble in 09. What about you?
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